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Never Forget Never Forgive
FdSc (Distinction), Mental Health – UK
LTh (Hons) – Romania
CertEd – Romania
QTS/GTCE – UK

PgCert, Special Psychopedagogy – Romania
CEU Cert, Religion, Spirituality & Mental Health – USA
PgCert, Autism and Asperger’s – UK

“I always knew I’m different, and I was born on another planet”.

By the end of a watery spring in 2016, being on the Autistic Spectrum (Asperger’s Syndrome) has become my tangible reality, confirmed by a formal diagnosis in June, 2017. Over 50 years of a rather odd life, came to a sudden realisation, with all the clicks and cogs falling to their right places. I truly hope for my experience to fit somewhere my academic endeavours would earn a better existence for all whose life’s were ignored simply because we’ve been born with our own, and not the world’s brains…

Oh, and I’m so not sorry about that…

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  1. The honour is mine!
    You’ve been the very first blogger I encountered and exchanged likes and comments with when I published my first post on WordPress!

    Now that I know you’ve got two blogs, it’s even better:-)

    Take care!

    Rom

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  2. You know I can’t help laughing after reading Conceived without prior consent, born the same, considering suicide ever since. I have contemplated voluntary dying very few times but now I have become its ardent advocate.
    You have got yourself a follower, I like this already 🙂

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  3. Oh, Hello Makagutu, and a very warm welcome!

    Just pleeeeeease read what follows after what you quoted, and stay as an ardent follower until I get 1,000,000 followers! Pleeeeease, OK? And I promise to do the same! When we’re done we prolong the contract for another million followers, and consider suicide after… OK? Deal?

    Rom😜👻

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  4. My human mortal brother, Isn’t that Jerusalem’s western wall picture you have in your main page?
    Some of your images reminded me with my childhood… sniff sniff..

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    1. Hi Mike,
      If you are the owner the picture and want to claim royalties, the answer is NO…
      If you are the Mike who dumped his faith because of sane reason, the answer is YES:-))
      It is, dear brother in our common lack of faith, it is the Kotel, the place of my people’s memory of tears…
      A very warm welcome, I’ll be following your site, I’ll have quite a few things to say!
      Shalom:-)

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      1. I can’t find words to express my joy my friend. Politically we should be enemies (I was born Palestinian in Bethlehem to a Catholic family), but atheism opened our eyes and political, ethnical, religious problems simply vanished! Isn’t this a slap in the face for every religious person in the world?
        Salam! Shalom! Peace my ex-Jewish friend form an ex-Christian ex-Palestinian man living near the Pope (in Rome)

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  5. LOOOOOOOOL!
    Now that’s a good one, Mike, I am so glad!
    I fully agree on this point with Dawkins (whose narrow mindedness I nevertheless hate:-) that in order to change a good person into a bad one, all you need is religion! I have found out about my Jewish heritage as an adult, but unfortunately converted to evangelical christianity right after (and back to Judaism after), just to realize after nearly two decades how wrong both (and others too…) religions are.
    I hope you’ve seen Adam Sandler’s “Zohan”, that’s one of my favourite political bibles…
    Looking forward to keeping in touch!
    Your (religiously ex) Jewish, new friend!
    Salaam!

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    1. Little correction here. Dawkins actually quoted that phrase, it is not his own! It is a phrase that the Nobel prize winner, the physicist, originally Jewish, actually atheists, Steven Weinberg. This is his original quote:

      With or without religion, you would have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things. But for good people to do evil things, that takes religion.”

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  6. Hi Rom,
    Thank you for visiting and following my blog. Looking around yours, a see a few familiar faces, but I also see some awesome credentials… and you want to follow my blog??

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    1. Aw Em,
      Sorry, I haven’t noticed how superieur je suis…
      Right, I’ll then follow your farfadet, only, without following you, OK?
      But can I use the Follow button on your blog, because she lives there:-)

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        1. Well, I didn’t want to tell you, but my cunning plan (learned that from Baldrick) is to have some move over to my blog…
          🙂

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      1. Oh, how I love you all, and what a difference you are all making in my twist-and-turn life:-)
        All these are listed just to remember some of my visitors, of why some of my thoughts and sentences might be worth considering…
        Just a bit:-)

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    1. Oh my gosh, was this page public? Now it’s out… I have to admit then… yes I am “mental”…:-)
      And it feels great!
      Thank you:-)

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  7. After seeing all those degrees you have, especially theology, I have a quick question my friend:

    Was your intent in studying theology a desire to deepen your religious beliefs in the beginning, or was it simply because it was a subject you liked a lot? If you could ever go back in time in your life, but with your current views, would you still chose to study theology? If YES/NO then why?

    Thanks

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    1. At the time it was my earnest desire to deepen my fundamentalism’s knowledge base. It turned out to have become the basis for a logic and rational inquiry into why I believe what I believed. Beside I was into creationism, where besides presuppositions, everything else must be “scientifically” logical. Well, it was exactly the honesty to take all my questions to their irreducible end, what made me dump it all. It was academic rigour which freed me in the end. Unfortunately most of theology students after arriving at doubts’ crossroads as I did, chose denial and give in to fear, against all sane logic.
      And probably I won’t study theology, but actually it does help me help others now. But unfortunately, most Christians won’t listen…
      Besides, I earned a parallel degree in Education also some useful post-grads:-D

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      1. “Unfortunately most of theology students after arriving at doubts’ crossroads as I did, chose denial and give in to fear, against all sane logic”

        This is quite a sad point, but so true. Admitting one is wrong is one of the most difficult things a man can do.

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        1. And even harder when it comes to the hundreds, or in my case many thousands I have “ministered” to, and “strengthened” them in a lie… Not to mention my family…

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  8. I’m glad our paths crossed on Noel’s blog. I look forward to reading your thoughts. As an aside, I recommended you to Pope Makagutu to co-head with me on a committee to select committees. He approved. Are you in?

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    1. On a second thought, I’ll be closely following your blog. I’ve been for a couple of decades now very much into behavioural sciences, on their fringes though, where only literati and “experimental theologians” venture, if you know what I mean…

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  9. Thanks. I haven’t been very active on that blog lately. It started out as a spot to post data, not so much my opinion. Like you, I started another blog. I’m also in the middle of revamping it, and eventually publishing what I’ve got in draft. What you wrote to Mike above really struck me. I have met several ministers who are no longer believers and felt the same way. I can’t imagine the burden they must carry.

    Back to neuroscience — I’m not a neuroscientist or neurologist. However, research in that discipline afforded answers to questions I’d been seeking for the better part of adult life. My faith and hope in humanity was the result. Religion failed — a big fat F. What a freaking waste of my time and love. I hate being duped. Thankfully, neural circuitry associated with critical social assessment was reactivated during my deconversion. Puts new meaning to “I once was blind but now I see.”

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    1. Please keep me updated and informed, I’d really love to keep in touch. What’s your other blog, I’d like to add it for following?

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    1. Great! Two things helped out through deconversion – which I had to bridge for myself given my subsequent immigration -, the first and most important was Phillip Pullman’s Trilogy, and blogging, which helped express what’s been dormant all along. Nevertheless I realise that gaining two decades of experience might prove providential for many on the long run…
      We’ll be following☺

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  10. I have not read Pullman’s Trilogy series, but I’m intrigued after taking a quick look. How long has it been since you deconverted, and did the process take long? I started the process in ’98, but it wasn’t until around 2005 that I ‘saw the light’, so to speak. It’s only been very recently that I started opening up about my personal experiences and expressing my opinions about the biggest lie ever told.

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    1. It’s called “His Dark Materials” and it’s comprised of three novels, autonomously interconnected as one the greatest indictments against religion, namely christianity, ever written. It starts with the “Golden Compass”, but the movie falls short of the book’s detailed clarity, so I’d suggest you better read it. It literally freed my mind not only from religion, but onto the freedom to hate any entity who would be responsible for any such a mess. I am more detailed in my posts, in Defiant Hopelessness’ archives you’ll find plenty. I’m still in debt writing in detail about my deconversion, which it’s so complicated that it actually starts before my “conversion” in 1981…

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  11. How interesting that you would say that your deconversion actually started before your conversion. I had pretty much deconverted after I left home and moved away at 19, but it wasn’t until the suicide of my late husband that I became a target for fundamentalist vultures to prey on the vulnerable, but they had already nabbed my unbelieving partner after he had a ‘sudden religious conversion’ a few years after sustaining a traumatic brain injury. The hallucinations were caused by temporal lobe seizures. I write about it in my post “Preying in the Name of God” on my NRP blog.

    It took me a long time to open up about that, but I didn’t leave Christianity because of that experience or any other trauma I experienced as a believer. I left because I started studying the Bible extensively, and I came to realize that I’d rather burn in hell than worship a psychopath like that. Besides my daughter, who is now a young adult, I’m the only one in my family on both sides who’s an atheist. They didn’t take to well to that, but I don’t care. I’ve never felt more alive. =)

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  12. Your blog expands my brain. Your writing is downright gifted. You’ve got yourself another follower, and I’m honored to do so 🙂

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    1. Oh dear me, thank you so much…
      Your kindness is both humbling and uplifting. The honour is all mine, please be always welcome😇🙌

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  13. Your blog is currently included on our Actually Autistic Blogs List (anautismobserver.wordpress.com). Please personalize your blog’s description by selecting “About the list/How do you want your blog listed?” from the top menu on that site.
    Thank you.
    Judy (An Autism Observer)

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    1. OMG, dear Judy, I’ve just noticed your comment…
      I’ve got no WP notice about it, I’m so sorry 😦
      Thank you so much 💐, please allow a couple of days and I’ll get to it, I solemnly promise 🖖

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        1. Hi Judy, many, many thanks, I’ve updated my blog’s listing info, and also added the Signal Boost logo 🙂
          Thanks again!

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